Sunday, 24 April 2011

CIRCULAR DATING






Happy easter people. There is something that i really need to know other's people honest opinion about. Its circular dating. As a good Christian, i mean a born again Christian is this allowed? Some one once told me that you cannot chase two rats at a time cos its likely not to catch any of them. I think the reason why alot of people do circular dating is the far of heart break.

So as a christian, is it allowed?

Once again, Happy easter y'all.

16 comments:

kitkat said...

u cant serve two masters lol. I dnt think its right to do the whole circular dating ish. Even if you're trying to avoid heartbreak, double dating isnt the way to go about it and i dnt think it's christlike either :0

Ope Adebayo said...

Thanks Kitkat... Happy Easter .

Olori said...

lol wats circular dating.........oh i just got it. like double dating? for some reason i thot u meant "secular/wordly" dating and i was like wats dat? i guess i wasnt paying attention until kitkats comment. My take: stick to one partner....heartbreak is part of life, you suck it up and move on....lol dat sounds mean but u sha get my point.

Ope Adebayo said...

Thanks Olori, i understand. Heartbreak hurts like hell but you are right, one can get over it and move on. Thanks for reading.

Ibhade said...

Happy Easter & tnx for coming over and giving me an award..do appreciate it.

Regarding the question, do you mean as a xtain should you have a boyfriend? I would answer it in 2 ways;

If you are seeking for a partner, yes, BUT avoid the 'intimacy'.

If you are not, then stick to platonic friendships.

Fellow Writer (Ayokunle Falomo) said...

Hmm, what simple way to answer the question? I'm kinda gonna piggy-ride on Ibhade's comment. It's not easy to avoid the 'intimacy'. Then again, what is dating ? The word has to be well defined - and trust me, it has different meaning. But having a boyfriend/girlfriend OR searching for one (these two scenarios can be classified as dating) is clearly against biblical doctrines though. It's been said a lot of times that dating is different from courtship. So...well anyways

Ope Adebayo said...

@Ayounle&Ibhade: Thanks so much for reading. Ibhade, what i meant was is it ok for a born-again Christian to be double dating so as to have someone to fall back on when one messes up?

To avoid 'intimacy' in a relationship is hard work and it only takes the grace of God.
Thank u again guys.

okonyahouseboy said...

define circular dating...if you mean double dating - lol then think how you'd feel if you one of the ladies your man is playing - err i mean double dating lol

on a serious note - no, I dont think its the best way to approach r/ships.

Ope Adebayo said...

@Okonyahouseboy:
Kai,i would be so pissed off!lol.
Thanks for visiting my blog.

Ginger said...

ohh. I didnt even know what circular dating was till now... that kinda dating isnt supposed to be about intimacy or commitment. Which is why you can have more than one boyfriend but i guess that's not easy..
It's up to the girl/boy. And as long as the other person knows your stand.

Ope Adebayo said...

Thanks Ginger. its so tempting cos am always paranoid that hes cheating.

Im not cheating on you oh if u re reading this lol.

Funmi said...

That is definetly a no no. It is not worth it at all at all...if both find out nko then they both likely wont trust you and you are at a lose lose

Thanks for the award, love your blog too.

Ope Adebayo said...

Yeah you are so right funmi.Its gonna be an ugly situation.
Thanks for the award.

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Alicia Gilbert said...

As a 42 year old never-married Christian woman I just want to say to you that (generally speaking) men have been circular dating for a long time. They date several women at once and do not tell us this. Meanwhile, we put too much into the dates, starting with the first one. If the first date goes well we have a tendency to sit by the phone or wait for the text or whatever, hoping for another chance to prove that we are "worthy." I think what Rori Raye says is exactly what women ought to do. The younger a woman is when she learns this, the better for her. I just wish I knew this stuff 20 years ago. Before I even heard of Rori Raye, I took time out from dating to focus on myself and my life. While I do get lonely like everyone else who is as single as me, I do have a certain freedom I have not had since I was 16 years old. I do not have to worry about how a man is behaving because that is not my focus. My focus is on me and my life. I am no longer serious about anyone unless he is serious about me...by serious that would mean a complete understanding between the two of us that we are not dating but instead "courting" and there is a ring and wedding date in our future. So far that courting phase has not happened for me. Until then, I will be exclusive to myself by circular dating and using that time to learn what I need to for finding the kind of man I want who is right for me. I advise you to do the same...remember: the younger you are at learning to do this the happier you will be.