Friday, 24 June 2011

ANY SUGGESTION?





Hello people, i guess you guys are doing great? This is just a random post.I actually contemplated   on weather or not to post this thing here but i actually decided to cos i need people's suggestions about this issue.
How do i start? Ok,lemme just brief you guys. I met this guy like 4 months ago and he immediately made his intentions known to me. He told me he's in love with me and he actually would like to marry me. Funny bah? I actually laughed when he said it and i told him i wasn't ready for any relationship cos i was still heart broken from my previous one.  He started calling me every night and i must say i kinda enjoy talking to him. The thing is, i can't date this guy becos he's not my type, God forgive me, he doesn't have anything i desire in a man. See guys, this guy is dead jealous,i mean JEALOUS. I am not dating him and he already questions my movements,  if he calls and i don't pick my phone on time he questions why. Sometime last month, he told me, i was giving him high blood pressure and that i was leading him on, and he doesn't wanna take no for an answer, he even said he knows i like him and that i wanna marry him and that i am just being childish.  I am really fed up, i don't know what to do cos he doesn't wanna take no for an answer. Please guys, what can i do to make him understand i don't have any feeling what so ever for him?

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15 comments:

Olori said...

its always nice when someone pays attention to u especially after a heart break...dats why we have rebounds so i get ur feeling good talking to him. however, i will say run for ur dear life. d elders say na with clap dance dey start. i was suspicious of the immediate confession of love...red flag 1. nd den controlling movement.....red flag 2. doesnt respect u enough to take no for an answer (provided ur not truly leading him on)....red flag 3. when u enter d relationship nd slap starts to fly dese may hve been ur warning sign to leave earlier.

but on d other hand, have u been sorta kinda leading him on? with all d calls and stuff, it can look like ur feeling d boy on a deeper p so dats why he persisted nd now he is hooked nd a bit possessive cos he is in love (i dnt buy dat argument of possessive love sha). since u say ur not ready to be involved with dis guy, i think at least he deserves a heart to heart of u telling him u no do again. nd u too shuld try to ignore d calls, keep conversations short so dat him too can slowly detach.....lol hope dis long epistle helps

Ope Adebayo said...

Thanks Olori, this is deep and really helpful. I will do that, thanks alot.

kitkat said...

the dude is very forward hey. It's obvious u arent feeling him so try to make it clear to him by having a face-to-face conversation with him. Stop answering his calls if he keeps calling and turn down his offers to hang out lol. Be mean but just enough so he gets the message, goodluck lol

Sisi Yemmie ™ said...

Dont beat about the bush or lead hime on. Have a chat with him and tell him exactly how you feel! And hopefully he respects that.

@ilola said...

Abeg abeg abeg, what's the guy's own naa? Why tailor your movement?
If you want to get rid of him, my advice is total ignorance. Don't pick his calls, don't reply his messages, don't even act like he exists and don't pity him cos talking to him might just make him try harder. I hope you have the liver to act on my advice o

N.I.L (Naijamum in London) said...

I believe it is always best not to make enemies in life so I prefer a heart-to-heart discussion with him (in a public place)
After this, minimise all contact with him.

Ope Adebayo said...

Awwwww..... Guys i knew i could count on you. I will ignore his calls and i will just tell him how i feel, i don't digg him one bit.

Thank guys.

aeWHYoh: Fellow Writer said...

The girls have spoken, so it's only fair that a guy chip in his own suggestion as well. Actually, I won't say anything different from what they've all said. PLEASE, for God's sake be honest and upfront with the poor guy (we have emotions too, albeit overbearing at times, but understand) Tell him EXACTLY how you feel...just like you expressed yourself here. I kinda understand the "someone to talk to kind of mentality), but that can only take you not-so-far. Peace at the moment is better than a whole lotta complications you'll have to address later on if you don't take care of it now. Good luck dear.

blogoratti said...
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blogoratti said...

Just tell him how you feel about it all. If he doesn't believe you, send him a link to this post, hehe.

Ope Adebayo said...

@ aeWHYoh: Thank you so much,i appreciate. I will do just that.

@Blogoratti : LWKMD@ ur comment.Thank u.

P.E.T. Projects said...

No one can force you to reciprocate their 'love'.
Quit smilling and just tell him in plain english you're not interested. If you're busy dont go out of ur way to pick his call or do anything for him.

Ope Adebayo said...

P.E.T Projects: Thanks you so much for the comment. I will talk to him 2night, i have been ignoring his calls for days, Thanks again.

Ginger said...

Hope you have settled with Mr Caller....

Ope Adebayo said...

Ginger: I have finally settled it oh, i told him plain and simple! Thanks for the comment.